We’ve had a couple of dodgy nights where there could have been so many reasons for the waking…Leap 7, teething, the heat…but I’ve worked out it was something in the chicken casserole that Violet tried for the first time a couple of days ago. She won’t be having that again…and I know what I need to give her today that’s gentle enough not to upset her tummy, but will also clear whatever is affecting her, out of her system!
It’s very rare that there is just one reason for a Little One having a sleep issue, it is often more complex than that. If we take a development leap for example, the primary sleep resistance trigger is mental because they’re learning so much more and have a busy mind. You will also have big changes that affect them emotionally, and as they miss out on sleep, become overtired so they are then affected physically.
So you can see why, very often the blanket, one size fits all, let’s focus on the behaviour approach doesn’t work. You can read books, but they’re not written about your Little One are they! Your Little One laughs in the face of going down drowsy but awake and it’s hard to communicate as little as possible during night wakes when they’re climbing all over you or repeating your name over and over and over and over! (more…)
One of the biggest causes of overtiredness in Little Ones is nap dropping or nap transitioning. There are three main nap transitions – 3 down to 2, 2 down to 1 and 1 to nothing…eeeek!
Handled well these nap transitions can actually have a really positive effect on your Little One’s nighttime sleep, but if you’re not careful they can cause chronic overtiredness, meaning that you could be dealing with…
Frequent night wakes
Really early wake ups
All from dropping a nap?! Essentially yes but it’s important to remember that whilst your Little One is going through this stage, they will also be going through a whole load of other stuff…development leaps, big changes, growth spurts, teething, separation anxiety…which can also have an impact.(more…)
We are in Leap 7! Touch wood it doesn’t feel too bad at the moment, and we’ve also come through the other side of the nap transition (which created a bit of overtiredness, as they do). So, naps are finally getting back to being a bit longer and bedtime is a relatively calm experience…it could all change quite quickly though couldn’t it, especially as her two top teeth are having a push and bringing a snotty nose with them!
That’s the thing with babies and sleep…it can change so much, because their world is changing so much. People often say that I must have a baby who sleeps through, because of what I do. The reality is that at times, despite me being a sleep coach, my baby doesn’t sleep! Violet is 9 months old now and she doesn’t sleep for 12 hours a night…well she does, but she also wakes up during that time. In the evening she will wake once or twice with an uncomfortable tummy, as she’s still getting used to food or just to know that I’m there…because this is the period where separation anxiety is at its peak. She has a feed late evening and then comes in with me for the rest of the night. Once she’s in with me, she’ll sleep until 5.30 when she has a feed and back to sleep for an hour. Naps since Leap 6 have been sporadic and the nap transition from 2 to 3 created some serious overtiredness, which meant jolting awake after each sleep cycle. (more…)
One intervention after another…an aggressive internal inspection which caused a bleed, being made to lie down so that I could be monitored, not allowed to go in the birth pool, not even being heard, telling me they would do a small cut to help him out then doing a full episiotomy and refusing to tell me how many stitches I was having
People’s reactions were confusing…some didn’t mention how hard it must have been, others said well it’s all over Know, at least you’re here and healthy. My doctor possibly gave the worst reaction ever…you’re lucky, if it had been forty years ago, you’d both be dead. He said that to me within the first week after giving birth.
Then at my six week check, he said I was an anxious mum and needed to get out and have lunch with my friends more…get used to leaving my baby at home with someone else (more…)
We’ve hit the storm cloud in Leap 6, so I’m trying to fit my work into two 45 minute naps a day…it’s a challenge! There’s also some separation anxiety that has been affecting evening sleep, but I really can’t complain (not when I think how it was with Dexter during these times!)
I know that the primary trigger for Dexter’s sleep resistance was his traumatic birth and although Violet’s birth was much more peaceful, the pregnancy (particularly evenings) was quite stressful, and we were separated briefly after she was born (and I was being stitched), which is why she doesn’t want me to leave her in the evening.
We’re now in the final week of my first group on my <<<Birth Healing Together programme>>>, and the journey they have taken has been unbelievable. There were elements that they were aware had impacted them and their Little Ones, which is why they joined in the first place…but one particular module took a lot of them by surprise, especially when they saw such distinct patterns. Find out more about it below
Join my FREE online class on Tuesday 23rd January at 8.00pm. ‘3 Things Your Little One Remembers From Their Birth Experience.’ (and how it affects their sleep & emotions.) Register for your place <<<<HERE>>>>
It’s not what you think…I had an appointment which was at a rubbish time of day and was 40 minutes away from home. I’d cancelled once and rearranged another time, so I really couldn’t miss it. The journey there was fine; Violet amused herself and then fell asleep 20 minutes before we arrived.
During the appointment she sat for nearly an hour, chatting away, playing and exploring. She had something to eat before we left to drive home and then fell asleep again not long into the journey. We were nearly at my friend’s house, where Dexter was, when she woke up. She seemed a bit grizzly but I just put it down to being completely out of routine, as it was 5.30 and we were normally heading upstairs for her bedtime routine by now. We got Dexter and set off home and that’s when she started getting really upset.
It was rush hour, so with the roads being busy I took a short cut down the lanes…15 minutes max. Normally when Violet’s upset in the car, she quietens down as soon as the car gets going…but she didn’t, she got more and more upset. There was nowhere for me to pull over, I just needed to get home and get both tired and hungry Little Ones inside for a quick dinner and bed. (more…)
I’m recovering from half term! Dexter went back to school on Tuesday and although I miss having him around (and Violet’s nap routine has gone out of the window), it is nice to have a bit more balance…and some silence! I really love school holidays and having extra time with Dexter, but from an energy perspective, they do take up a lot.
Being a mum is a balancing act and when you’re sleep deprived, the balance can tip so easily. I’d had Violet unsettled in the evenings because her tummy was adjusting to solid food, Dexter wanting nearly every second in the day, play dates, family get togethers and meals, 3 lots of furniture to put together including Dexter’s new cabin bed, nearly 700 mums in Facebook groups and 14000 on my page in a really intense week energy wise. I could feel my reserves waning!
The straw that broke the camel’s back was an emergency on Tuesday which completely drained me of any energy I had left…it knocked me for six! I had a lot of people depending on me and I knew that one step further and I could crash, I had nothing left to give. Here’s how I prevented an almighty crash…
Find out more about the life changing Energy Work for Little Ones programme <<<HERE>>>
She Thought It Was Ridiculous…But Now It’s Changed Her Life
Cicely* came to me last year for help with her 2-year-old daughter, Kitty’s* sleep and ended up taking a place on my Ultimate Toddler Sleep Programme. Cicely was completely worn out from Kitty’s multiple night wakings and breastfeeding back to sleep.
Cicely is, and always was, a wonderful mummy to her Little One, but, day-to-day, things weren’t as she’d always imagined they would be when she became a parent. ”I wanted my days off with Kitty to be idyllic and lovely but in reality, I was just too tired,” Cicely admits.
“Often it was a stressful battle to get her to sleep. I dreaded bedtimes. Weekends were easier as we didn’t have to do anything but when we did I often felt it went wrong. I was permanently exhausted. The night time feeds/wakes were so draining that I had no energy during the day.”(more…)
From Chaos to Calm: How One Mum Used Energy Work to Transform Her Life
Mums of non-sleeping Little Ones: do you ever feel like you’re on a treadmill? Constantly working hard, trying to get it right? Are you trapped by naps? Touched out and snappy?
And you and your partner…do you sometimes feel like it would all be easier to deal with if you just called it a day and separated?
That’s exactly how Sarah, mum to Isaac, felt when she came to me over a year ago for help with Isaac’s sleep.
“I didn’t want to be the person I was”
Isaac was under 1 year old when Sarah first joined my Sleep Deprived Mum’s Club. Working in a high-pressure position as a specialist nurse within intensive care and supporting families through end-of-life care and bereavement, alongside practicing attachment parenting was wearing Sarah down. “I was very happy with attachment parenting Isaac,” Sarah said, “but in the process I was being drained.” (more…)
The Unexpected Way Recording YOUR Dreams Could Help Your Little One Sleep! ~ Guest Blog from Carly Brown, The Dream Decoder
If you have been following Jennie Harrison for a while you will know that she teaches us that our Little Ones are incredibly sensitive and pick up on everything, especially things we, as mums, are personally going through. Not only can this show up in the way they behave around us it can also massively impact their sleep.
So what have the dreams mums have at night got to do with any of that?! (more…)